| May is a big Month for the Coale Family! May 10th is the youngest Coale-Valdez' Birthday, and he just turned one, 1, uno, hana, ein, un!!!
Now, Doris, the Matriarch of the Coale's, Doris, McLaughlin Coale, will celebrate her 85th birthday tomorrow (hmm, well, ammend that, officially it's today!). I will try to get snaps from Evan Everett Valdez' up soon, and tomorrow I will try to capture moments from Doris' special day. Can y'all keep a secret? shhhhhhhh...
My Mother is giving Doris her barely been used Lazyboy Rocker, Heater & Massager recliner!!! It sounds weird, but to understand it's importance and why I feel the need to chronicle this gift, things are very scary right now for Mom, and she is trying to hold on to things, familiar things, as much as she possibly can. Every time she sees a piece of furniture, or a tchocke from her house go by, or get packed, or in a photo, she says, "Hey, that's Mine!". We follow up with, "Do you want it in your room?" [no], "Do you have room for it?" [no], then we're putting it ...or donating it , or gave it to . If you can, imagine you were losing parts of your memory along, with your ability to function doing simple tasks, and your body is failing you, and you have to rely on someone else, and you feel stupid because of it, when all of a sudden you see familiar pieces of your house being moved hither and yon, recognizable pieces of your life, your life's work, and you life with your husband when times were safer and fun -- and you feel [emphasis on feel as I have worked so long & hard with Kim, to keep Mom in the loop, and honor her, but of late, choices and decisions are really really difficult for her -- she's a moving target, in the old days, that could have described her too, but now the illness is exacerbating it, and she has no control or sense of this happening] like you have no voice or authority...it would be difficult to part with things that seem to define you, since everything else seems to conspire against your keeping yourself together. So, that she is giving this prezzie, which would bring some good money if we sold it, to Doris, and she remembers that she chose to give this to Doris, and is so thrilled that she is able to help Doris rest a bit easier due to Mom's own good fortune, generosity & choice really is a gift, a huge gift of sacrifice for the welfare of someone else. I am so proud of Mom, and I so love that she can find that piece of herself that gets tons of joy from giving joy to someone else. Way to go Mom!!! So, tomorrow will be a pretty long, but big day for us all, which I hope I can chronicle. Jenny is a sweetheart to bring the chair down in her van, so we can switch out Doris' big old lazyboy, with springs poking through -- ouch, for this high tech "comfy chair" -- and on her Birthday -- Score !
## "tra-la, it's may, the lusty month of may..." Camelot
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